Self forgiveness is one of the most important part of life . It is not easy to forgive yourself it requires self understanding ,kindness.When you are working on yourself ,you are making path to your dream, you will make several mistakes To learn how to forgive yourself, you must first acknowledge that the past is the past. This seems fairly straightforward, but when we can really wrap our head around the fact that we can't undo the past—that the past is done, that those things happened—we open ourselves up to more acceptance.
The reason most of us feel guilt or shame for our past actions is because those actions were not in line with our current morals and values. In this way, our previous wrongdoings can actually clue us in to what we hold now important. Think about what you value now and how that's different from the past. This process will help you start to get a clearer picture as to why you're hurting and get you closer on the path to self-forgiveness.
Commit to replacing the negative thoughts and behaviors with more appropriate ones that are in keeping with the morals and values you just identified. By so doing, you'll reaffirm to yourself that you can handle situations the way you want to. This can lead to a sense of pride, which is a huge part of building self-esteem and forgiving yourself.
Our actions always depend on the skills we have, the frame of mind we're in, and how we perceive a situation in the moment. Maybe when we made the mistake, we didn't have as much objectivity or we acted out of survival mode. Maybe we'd let stress build up, which put us at a higher risk of responding poorly. Whatever the factors, cut yourself a break. If you learned from it, it wasn't in vain.
The last step to learning how to forgive yourself is building self-esteem. The best way to do that is practicing self-love. Think kind thoughts about yourself, and show yourself some compassion.
If self-love and self-acceptance do not come easy to you, consider working with a trained therapist for an outside perspective. You are more than your past mistakes.
We don’t need to remain in a cage or state of punishment by not forgiving ourselves. It doesn’t do anyone any good. Regain your energy, your freedom and your self-esteem by acknowledging the episode or pattern that is making you feel bad, thanking it for the lesson and letting go of the hurt by forgiving yourself.
As a closer of this article i would like to add some of important points
* Self forgiveness is equal to how much one love themselves,if you are not caring for yourself ,you will be never be able to forgive yourself and move on.
and i would also like to clear guys guilt is another thing , we will not go on this topic now.So kindly do not co-relate both of the thing.
*NOTE : This article is based on resources i have read online and my personal experience and understanding.
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